Sex analogy and #1 reason you will fail at entrepreneurship explained: Part – 1

It’s been a month and half since I published my last article (https://www.linkedin.com/pulse/like-sex-you-screw-keep-thinking-how-ends-1-reason-fail-sam-baisla?trk=prof-post) and I was both surprised and shocked (all in good sense) to see the response it has received. Comments and likes keep coming in as I write this piece. And I welcome all tastes. The message and more so the words I chose to use did resonate with lot of people out there. Some of my “not so good” friends (as I mentioned and predicted) got hurt as well and chose to write back expressing their “feelings”. While I understand you, couldn’t care less. As they say “don’t advertise your feelings, there is no market for them.”

Anyway, the good it has and keep achieving far outweigh the hurt sentiments and feelings. In the comments I have been seeing many views and it’s interesting to watch people expressing what they think is important to be written and read. The funniest thing is seeing people trying to say something when they actually mean something else. There were some questions as well, which I thought should be answered. And once again, I am not looking for an approval or something. Just expressing the last 14 years of grind.

I come from a generation where, if our toy was broken, we were supposed to fix it.

If a machine in the house was not working, we were supposed to open it, diagnose it, and fix it if we could or take it to the technician and get it fixed. Certainly not replace it. Sitting with technician, watching the master at his craft was so exciting and thrilling that hours used to pass without us even noticing it. If my pen ran out of ink, I was supposed to refill it.

So, fixing a problem, the thrill of doing so and patience in the process became the DNA of character and defined the idea of us.

The mindset of “Fix It” applies to everything we do even today. I wasn’t happy with my financial state; so I fixed it. Wasn’t happy with my boss and co-workers; I fixed it. Wasn’t happy with the way companies work; I fixed it (created my own).

The so-called “wannabe Entrepreneurs” I referred to in my previous article, most of them come from a generation where mostly, you are not trained and prepared to “fix” things.Most of them were raised with a “replace it” mindset. When they needed something, there were “given” it. And on top of it, they were made believe that they deserve the best of the world; that they are “entitled” to receive everything. So, when they face a challenge, they replace the problem. When their pen runs out of ink, they replace the pen, not the ink. Problem in relationship, leave the relationship. And even before they realize, they are running away from almost everything. Even from the fact that they are doing it. And I am not making generalizations; there are “fixers” also (heavily outnumbered though).

Entrepreneurship is essentially “fixing things”, “creating solutions”. And since its tough, you MUST enjoy the process. On top of it, it’s a very slow process.

And while you are at it, there is not entitlement, no gratification, and no guarantee of success.

How can you “fix” something with a “replace it” mindset?

How can you enjoy the process when you are constantly worried about the outcome? And then on top it, every minute and day you are bombarded with stories of pseudo-successful entrepreneurs where “raising money” is equated with becoming a successful business. Last time I read about businesses, a loan was a liability, which was supposed to be paid back. Meaning my job as a business owner begins from now. Very rarely the after stories of VC funded businesses are talked about. Study says 98% of businesses fail. Why, because the “so called wannabe entrepreneur” decided to solve some other problem. Sounds familiar? No ink in the pen? Get a new pen.

The only way to be successful in a business is to “be in business”.

Entrepreneurship is not an act; it’s a lifestyle. You need to live it. Its not a hobby. Go learn some skills. And most importantly do your thing while having fun at it.

And if you cry for it being tough; for not being able to raise a round of funding; for not being able to hire or retain a good employee; for not being able to have a corner office; for not being able to go to club and have party or for not being able to have a weekend off. My suggestion is, get the hell out of here. You don’t belong here. You don’t understand the game.

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